It's that time of life again. The time when secret affairs seem to be everywhere! It could be because it's an election year and party bashing must take place. Or, it could just be that cheating is more and more common.

There is only one reason you've landed on this page, and that's to solve the problem that is happening in your relationship. You believe that a secret affair is ruining your relationship. You're not totally sure, but you sure do have a hunch that something isn't right, and something sneaky is going on. Well, trust your gut. Statistics show that 82% of women and 50% of men who think their partner is cheating, are correct!

How do they make it so easy? Just how do they keep you up wondering and waiting for them, yet they rest so easily, as if nothing is going on. Where is their conscience? It must be tearing them up to. I mean, they love you, right?

In order to catch your spouse cheating, you have to understand some signs of a cheating spouse.

1. Check ATM and credit card transactions and map the location. This is one that not many people think of. In many cases, your spouse is smart enough to have an affair away from home, and to not use a credit card. But check the location of the ATM transactions. I've seen people come to me and show me statements of multiple ATM transactions at a specific ATM. When they mapped the location, they found it right across the street form a hotel!

2. Record Car Mileage. Many people don't think about this. But if your spouse works 5 miles from home, that's 10 miles round trip. If you record the car mileage and begin tracking it, you may see a pattern where your spouse is putting on 30-50 miles in a day. Now that's a far cry from the 10 miles you anticipate. Just where do you think your partner is going?

3. Odd Phone Number Keep Coming Up? Check into it a little deeper. If you keep noticing an odd phone number calling, get the number and do a search to see who the phone belongs to. I know if you are having these types of thoughts, then you are probably snooping and sneaking into your partner's cell phone as well. There is a good chance that they are deleting the text messages and maybe the call log. But if you're lucky, they forgot to delete the call log. Also check to see if there are names you don't recognize. For instance, if you are a woman and think your husband is cheating, and you find a name "Chuck", but you know your spouse doesn't know anyone named Chuck, that could be a code name for his mistress. Take that number and look it up. To do a reverse phone look-up, click here.

4. Internet and Email Activity. You can get really into the computer and check for activity your partner may be leaving behind. Here's a tip. In the bar where you type a web address, there is an arrow to the right, that points down. Click that arrow and the recent "history" of web pages will show up. You may find out that your partner is visiting dating or porn sites. If there is NO activity, your partner is clearing the history because he or she has something to hide. There is a way around this as well. There is key-logger software that will record screen shots of sites that are visited. They can also help identify key strokes, which will help you uncover passwords that your partner may be using for things like email and membership sites. You can grab a FREE trial by clicking the following link. Free Key-logger Software

5. Change in Appearance. This is an easy one to spot, but because you think you know your partner so well, it often gets overlooked. If your partner suddenly changes their style in clothes, hair, friends, and/or music you need to investigate to see if more of these signs are happening. Keep this clue in mind when it pertains to other changes in interests. Does your partner suddenly like something they used to think was stupid?

6. Sexual Behavior. Keep an eye out for changes in sexual behavior. Often times, people only think their spouse is cheating when the sex stops. You might be thinking, "We haven't had sex in a long time. Who are they getting it from if it's not me?" What you should be looking for along with that is more frequent sex. Often times an affair stimulates sexual drive. The thrill of sneaking around is a turn on, and you therefore need to pay attention to increases in sexual activity. Also, if your sex used to be "boring", and is now suddenly full of excitement, your partner may be learning new tricks from someone else.

7. Personal Items. This is a great one to pay attention to if you are not living with your partner. If your spouse has your things all over their home, and suddenly they begin to disappear or become hidden, they are hiding them from someone else, like their lover. For instance, you walk into your partner's house today and you notice your clothes lying in the bedroom, your deodorant and other personals on the sink in the bathroom, and a few pictures of you on display here and there. In a few months, you notice your clothes are put away or hung up, your toiletries are in the cupboard out of sight, and the pictures of you aren't on display any more.

8. Jealous. Has your once jealous partner suddenly stopped caring? Often times, one spouse becomes jealous that the other is not spending enough time with them, or is spending too much time with someone else. This stems from insecurities that are created from not having emotional needs being met. If this person, however, suddenly stops caring bout who you are with, there is a good chance that they have found someone else to satisfy their time.

9. They Anticipate Your Schedule. If your spouse begins asking about what time you are leaving, what time you are coming home, etc, they are trying to gauge how long they have without you. This is a chance for them to plan a quick getaway with their lover without you ever noticing. If you are going to be gone from 1-7pm on Saturday, they can plan a get together with the lover from 2-5 and you would never know they were gone.

10. Increase In Fights. If you and your partner are fighting more and more, and they seem to be about silly things, you have to beware, especially if your partner seems to be the one instigating most of them and then leaving. Many times, a partner will start a fight just to have a reason to leave the situation. During this time, they go to their lover's place and you would never know it, because you only thought they left because of the fight.

There you have 10 great tips to look for. Now, this is not to say that there are only 10 tips; there are many, many more. Nor is it safe to say that just because 1 of these things happens your partner is cheating. However, look for a pattern that develops. If more than one of these is happening and they are happening consistently, your relationship is in danger. Be careful on how to confront your partner; it could be devastating if you are wrong!